\u0130nsanlarda kusur aramak da \u00e7irkin ve k\u0131nanm\u0131\u015f amellerden biridir. \u0130nsanlar, ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kusur arayan kimselerden nefret eder ve onlarla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp kalkmaktan sak\u0131n\u0131rlar. Kurur bulmak kin ve ukdeye sebep olur, arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 bozar ve arkada\u015flar aras\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcr. \u0130nsanlara arkalar\u0131nda kusur bulunursa buna g\u0131ybet denir ve e\u011fer bu i\u015f insanlar\u0131n kendi kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda yap\u0131l\u0131rsa buna kusur arama denir. Kutlu \u0130slam dini bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcnahlardan saym\u0131\u015f ve bununla ilgili onlarca hadis nakledilmi\u015ftir. \u00d6rnek olarak:
\nResulullah (s.a.a) bir hutbesinde y\u00fcksek bir sesle buyurdu ki: \u201cEy dilleriyle iman getirip de kalplerine iman girmeyenler! M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar\u0131n g\u0131ybetini etmeyin, haklar\u0131nda k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zler s\u00f6ylemeyin ve onlar\u0131n kusurlar\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc; Allah Teala, karde\u015finin kusurunu ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya kalk\u0131\u015fan kimsenin kusurlar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7ar ve insanlar\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda onu rezil eder.\u201d(263)
\n\u0130mam Sad\u0131k (a.s) \u015f\u00f6yle buyuruyor: “Bir m\u00fcminin haysiyetini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmek i\u00e7in onun hakk\u0131nda bir \u015fey s\u00f6yleyen kimseyi Allah Teala kendi dostlu\u011fundan \u00e7\u0131kararak \u015feytan\u0131n dostlu\u011funa sokar, ama onu \u015feytan da kabul etmez.”(264)
\nResul-i Ekrem\u2019den (s.a.a) \u015f\u00f6yle nakledilir: \u201cHer kim m\u00fcsl\u00fcman bir kad\u0131n veya erke\u011fin g\u0131ybetini eder ve k\u00f6t\u00fclerse, g\u0131ybetini etti\u011fi kimse ondan raz\u0131 olmd\u0131k\u00e7a Allah Teala k\u0131rk g\u00fcn onun namaz ve orucunu kabul etmez.\u201d(265)
\n\u0130mam Sad\u0131k (a.s) buyuruyor ki: \u201cG\u0131ybet ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fclemek haram olup ete\u015f odunlar\u0131 yakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi iyi amelleri yok eder.\u201d(266)
\nNe yaz\u0131k ki, bu b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcnah normal bir i\u015f haline gelmi\u015f ve toplant\u0131lar\u0131n tatl\u0131s\u0131 olmu\u015ftur. \u00c7irkinli\u011fini kaybetmi\u015f ve bir \u00e7oklar\u0131 bunu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline getirmi\u015flerdir. Anne babada, baba da annede ve her ikisi ise kom\u015fuda ve akrabalarda kusur aramakta ve haklar\u0131nda k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemektedir. Masum \u00e7ocuklar da bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 evde anne ve babalar\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frenir ve zamanla ona al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k kazan\u0131rlar. Akrabalar\u0131n\u0131 ve di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcler ve onlarda kusur ararlar. Bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k \u00f6yle k\u00f6kle\u015fir ki, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcklerinde bunu terketmeleri \u00e7ok zor gelir.
\nBaz\u0131 cahil anne ve babalar, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n kusurlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rtmeleri gerekirken, hatta kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131nda bile kusur arar, haklar\u0131nda k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyler s\u00f6ylerler. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131ndaki kusuru bazen \u015fakayla ve bazen de k\u0131zarak s\u00f6yler ve ba\u015flar\u0131na kakarlar. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu da kusursuz de\u011fildir zaten.
\nAnne ve baba \u00f6fkelendiklerinde a\u011f\u0131zlar\u0131ndan \u015fu laflar \u00e7\u0131kabilir: \u00c7irkin zenci! Cans\u0131z, zay\u0131f! Boyu uzun akl\u0131 k\u0131sa! C\u00fcce! Burnu b\u00fcy\u00fck! A\u011fz\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck! K\u00fcl\u00fcst\u00fcr di\u015fli! Leylek! \u00c7irkin \u015fa\u015f! Nohut g\u00f6zl\u00fc! Gev\u015fek! Ve…
\nAnne ve baba \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndaki kusuru g\u00f6rerek k\u0131zd\u0131klar\u0131nda onlardaki kusurlar\u0131 s\u00f6yleyebilirler. Bu hareket birka\u00e7 y\u00f6nden k\u00f6t\u00fcd\u00fcr:
\n1- \u00c7ocuklar bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 anne ve babalar\u0131ndan amelen \u00f6\u011frenir ve karde\u015fleri, di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar ve b\u00fcy\u00fckler hakk\u0131nda kullan\u0131rlar.
\n2- Anne ve babalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 kin besler ve onlara kar\u015f\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcmser olurlar.
\n3- \u00c7ocuktaki kusuru s\u00f6ylemek, \u00f6zellikle tekrarlamak onun ruhunda etki b\u0131rak\u0131r ve \u00e7ocuk kendini noksan ve kusurlu sanan; o kusur k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ve \u00f6nemsiz bile olsa yava\u015f yava\u015f g\u00f6z\u00fcne \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, bu konuda a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme sonucu asap zaaf\u0131na ve kendini eksik g\u00f6rmeye tutulabilir. O k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck kusur, kendi varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmezlikten gelip kendini hi\u00e7 bir makama lay\u0131k g\u00f6rmeyecek, toplumdan ve \u00f6nemli toplumsal i\u015flerden ka\u00e7acak kadar g\u00f6z\u00fcnde \u00f6nemli g\u00f6r\u00fcnebilir.
\nDolay\u0131s\u0131yla, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u015fahsiyet ve ki\u015fili\u011fine ilgi duyan anne ve baban\u0131n, ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ocuklarda bir kusur bile olsa hi\u00e7 bir zaman, hatta \u015fakayla ve \u00f6fke halinde bile onu s\u00f6ylemeye ve bu yolla \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruhuna darbe indirmeye hakk\u0131 yoktur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u0130nsanlarda kusur aramak da \u00e7irkin ve k\u0131nanm\u0131\u015f amellerden biridir. \u0130nsanlar, ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kusur arayan kimselerden nefret eder ve onlarla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp kalkmaktan sak\u0131n\u0131rlar. Kurur bulmak kin ve ukdeye sebep olur, arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 bozar ve arkada\u015flar aras\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcr. \u0130nsanlara arkalar\u0131nda kusur bulunursa buna g\u0131ybet denir ve e\u011fer bu i\u015f insanlar\u0131n kendi kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda yap\u0131l\u0131rsa buna kusur arama denir. Kutlu …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[762,760,761],"class_list":["post-218","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-genel","tag-allah-teala","tag-buyuk-gunahlar","tag-kusur-aramak"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/218","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=218"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/218\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=218"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=218"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=218"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}