Baz\u0131 ki\u015filerden g\u00f6r\u00fclen \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klardan biri de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmektir.
\nBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimse, birinin di\u011feri hakk\u0131nda dedi\u011fi k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zleri ona nakleder ve \u201cFalanca senin hakk\u0131nda \u015f\u00f6yle-b\u00f6yle dedi\u201d der. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirme, \u00e7irkin s\u0131fatlardan, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fck ve \u015feytanl\u0131k belirtilerinden biridir. \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda kin ve d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k olu\u015fturur. Arkadar\u015far\u0131 birbirinden ay\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmek sonucu nice b\u00fcy\u00fck cinayetler, kavgalar, \u00e7eki\u015fmeler vuku bulur!! Bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k nice aileleri da\u011f\u0131tm\u0131\u015f, kar\u0131 ve koca, anne, baba ve \u00e7ocuklar aras\u0131nda nice ayr\u0131l\u0131klar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr?! Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimse, insanlar\u0131n s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa vurar, oysa Allah Teala buna raz\u0131 de\u011fildir. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimsenin insanlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda haysiyet ve \u015ferefi olmay\u0131p \u015feytan, casus ve karaktersiz birisi olarak tan\u0131n\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar genelde onunla d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp kalkmaktan, arkada\u015f olmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r, ona ve onun anne ve babas\u0131na lanet ederler. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmenin enk\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc zalimlere casusluk yapmakt\u0131r. Bir zalime casusluk yapan, bir m\u00fcsl\u00fcman\u0131 tuza\u011fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcren, onun zindana d\u00fc\u015fmesine, i\u015fkence ve katledilmesine sebep olan kimse bu i\u015fe kendisi do\u011frudan do\u011fruya giri\u015fmi\u015f olmasa bile o zalimin zulm\u00fcne ortakt\u0131r ve bu su\u00e7undan dolay\u0131 k\u0131yamet g\u00fcn\u00fc cezaland\u0131r\u0131lacakt\u0131r.
\nResulullah (s.a.a) \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmaktad\u0131r: \u201c\u0130nsanlar\u0131n en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc m\u00fcsl\u00fcman karde\u015fi aleyhine bir sultan i\u00e7in casusluk yapan kimsedir. Bu casuslukla hem kendisinin, hem m\u00fcsl\u00fcman karde\u015finin ve hem de sultan\u0131n helak olmas\u0131na sebep olur.\u201d(258)
\nKutlu \u0130slam dini casusluk ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmeyi haram k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve baz\u0131 hadislerde onu \u015f\u00f6yle k\u0131nam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r:
\n\u0130mam Muhammed B\u00e2k\u0131r (a.s) \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur: \u201cCennet, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimseye haram k\u0131l\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve o cennete giremez.\u201d(259)
\nEmir-ul M\u00fcminin Hz. Ali (a.s) buyuruyor ki: \u201cSizin en k\u00f6t\u00fcn\u00fcz insanlar\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirerek dostlar aras\u0131nda ayr\u0131l\u0131k d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcren ve temiz insanlara kusur bulan kimsedir.\u201d(260)
\nBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmenin \u00e7e\u015fitli sebepleri olabilir. Bazen ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmeye sebep olan d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131kt\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimse iki ki\u015fiden biriyle veya her ikisiyle d\u00fc\u015fman oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in o ikisini birbirine d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmek i\u00e7in birinin s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc di\u011ferine aktar\u0131r. Bazen de g\u00f6steri\u015f i\u00e7in olup arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve hayr\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fini ortaya koymak i\u00e7in \u00e7eki\u015ftirir. Bazen ise toplant\u0131y\u0131 s\u00fcslemekten ba\u015fka bir hedefi olmaz. Her durumda, hedef ne olursa olsun ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmek \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc bir i\u015ftir ve m\u00fcsl\u00fcmanlar bu amelden ciddi bir \u015fekilde ka\u00e7\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Kutlu \u0130slam dini bu s\u0131fatla m\u00fccadele etmek i\u00e7in hatta ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmeyi dinlemeyi bile haram k\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.
\nResulullah (s.a.a) \u015f\u00f6yle buyuruyor: \u201cBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmeyin ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirenin s\u00f6zlerini de dinlemeyin.\u201d(261)
\nHz. Ali (a.s) ise \u015f\u00f6yle buyuruyor: \u201cBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftireni, ister hak \u00fczere olsun ister bat\u0131l yalanlay\u0131n.\u201d(262)<\/p>\n
Bellidir ki, insanlar, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimsenin s\u00f6zlerine kulak vermezlerse o da bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 terkeder. Ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6zlerini size aktaran kimsenin, sizin arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve hayr\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 istemedi\u011fine emin olun. Ger\u00e7ekten o sizin arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olsayd\u0131 onu s\u00f6yleyen kimsenin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sizi savunur, ama onu size naklederek sinirlerinizi bozmaz ve bazen sizi k\u00f6t\u00fc bir i\u015fe s\u00fcr\u00fcklemezdi. Herhaluk\u00e2rda; m\u00fcsl\u00fcman, bildi\u011fi s\u0131rlar\u0131 korumal\u0131, dilini kontrol etmeli, casusluk ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmekten sak\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r.
\nBir \u00e7oklar\u0131 bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuklukta, anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131n evinde kazanm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, anne ve baba da bu husustan sorumludurlar.<\/p>\n
Anne ve baba, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n bu \u00e7irkin \u00f6zelli\u011fe al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k kazanmamalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ilk \u00f6nce kendileri ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmemelidirler. \u00c7ocu\u011fun annesi halas\u0131n\u0131n, karde\u015finin, teyzesinin ve kom\u015fusunun s\u00f6zlerini kocas\u0131na nakletmemelidir. Babas\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc e\u015fine anlatmamal\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc anne ve baba ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmeye al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k kazanm\u0131\u015f olurlarsa \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 da onlar\u0131 taklid eder ve bu \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 onlardan \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olurlar. <\/p>\n
Bazen \u00e7ocuklardan biri annesinin veya karde\u015finin konu\u015ftuklar\u0131n\u0131 babas\u0131na nakleder ve a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 onlar\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirir. Bu durumda babas\u0131 hemen \u00e7ocu\u011fun s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kesmeli ve demelidir ki: \u201cBa\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmek \u00e7irkin bir i\u015ftir. Ni\u00e7in annenin s\u00f6zlerini bana aktard\u0131n?! Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6zlerini bana nakletmeni sevmiyorum. Bundan b\u00f6yle bu t\u00fcr i\u015fleri yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmeyeyim.\u201d Ayr\u0131ca, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bu \u00e7irkin i\u015fe al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k kazanmamalar\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7eki\u015ftirmelerine ilgi g\u00f6stermemeli ve g\u00f6rmezlikten gelmelidir. \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden Resulullah (s.a.a), ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirenin s\u00f6zlerine kulak vermeyin buyurmu\u015ftur. Ancak, baz\u0131 cahil anne ve babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7eki\u015ftirmelerini iyice dinliyor, tebess\u00fcm ederek onlar\u0131 bu i\u015fe te\u015fvik ediyor ve b\u00f6ylece tertemiz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 bu k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u0131fta al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Baz\u0131 ki\u015filerden g\u00f6r\u00fclen \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klardan biri de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmektir. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftiren kimse, birinin di\u011feri hakk\u0131nda dedi\u011fi k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zleri ona nakleder ve \u201cFalanca senin hakk\u0131nda \u015f\u00f6yle-b\u00f6yle dedi\u201d der. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirme, \u00e7irkin s\u0131fatlardan, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fck ve \u015feytanl\u0131k belirtilerinden biridir. \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda kin ve d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k olu\u015fturur. Arkadar\u015far\u0131 birbirinden ay\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7eki\u015ftirmek sonucu nice b\u00fcy\u00fck cinayetler, kavgalar, \u00e7eki\u015fmeler vuku …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[766,767,763,764,765],"class_list":["post-219","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-genel","tag-anne","tag-baba-ve-cocuklar","tag-baskalarini-cekistirmek","tag-cirkin-aliskanliklar","tag-kari-ve-koca"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=219"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=219"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=219"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.islamidavet.com\/kutuphane\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=219"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}